"It is better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, than in a house shared with a contentious woman... It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and angry woman." Proverbs 21: 9 & 19
Nag! Nag! Nag! Oh how us women can nag sometimes! No wonder men want to head for the hills! It can go both ways, but its usually the woman who tends to be called a nag.
Webster defines 'contentious' as "exhibiting an often perverse and wearisome tendency to quarrels and disputes." I bet we all know some contentious people. They always seem to try & pick a fight, start an argument for no reason. Its like they aren't quite happy when there isn't something to be annoyed with or angry at. These people should be our shining examples of what NOT to be! Being around a contentious person can be so exhausting. Imagine how it can be for our spouses when WE are the nagging ones.
It can become very easy to talk to the ones we love the most with the least respect. You find a level of comfort in the way you treat your spouse & it becomes normal to just carry on with it. Soon the joking comments can become more serious. Instead of being the one who should be building up the most praise & confidence in the one we love, we can become the ones that are tearing them down & criticizing their every move. And often, we don't know that we are doing it.
Pay attention to the way you speak to your loved ones this week. If you find you can treat perfect strangers with more respect or kinder words than your spouse or your children, its time to re-evaluate your words. We don't want our loved ones hiding in a corner of the house or fleeing to the wilderness because they can't stand hearing the words we say. "Speak words of love."