Thursday, May 31, 2007

Virtuous Wife: Proverbs 31

"Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies. The heart of her husband safely trusts her; so he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life." Proverbs 31: 10-12

Ladies, today is our day. The chapter of the virtuous woman. I've been anticipating it all month. You don't have to be a wife or mother to learn from this chapter, just a woman! Oh how much better the world could be if all women strove to be this sort of woman. What kind of woman is she?

She's crafty & skilled.
"She seeks wool and flax, and willingly works with her hands." vs. 13

I am no Martha Stewart when it comes to things like sewing. It took my hubby a lot of begging to get me to sew his pocket back up after months of it hanging loose because I just don't have that skill but I am always so impressed by women who can sew their own stuff. I enjoy crafts - things like scrapbooking, painting & decorating. I like doing stuff with my hands too.

She goes beyond what is easy
"She brings her food from afar." vs 14

I think this refers to a woman that can go out of her way to make things special. In the supermarket world we live in, most of us just want to go into one store, get all we need and go home. But sometimes, its necessary to make the extra effort. Sometimes if you know there is somethign special that you can make or bring home for someone by going to a different store, or even making special orders, I think that this is the same virtue.

She is a provider.
"She also rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household." vs 15

Do you get up early & make breakfast for your family on weekends? Do you always make a little extra just in case someone else might stop by? Do you make your husband or children's lunch? Do you ever take a meal or snack to someone who might need it? Then you too have the virtue of being a provider.

She is wise with her purchases & can turn them for profit
"She considers a field and buys it; from her profits she plants a vineyard." vs.16

This verse always surprises me because I think of it from a cultural time where women weren't maybe free to make these sort of decisions because the men took care of stuff like that. I like that this shows a woman with a good business sense, a woman who's virtue may lie in business & buying & selling because there are so many women in business today. She not only considers the business side of things but she also manages the labour and makes a profit! You Go Business Girls!

She is not a weak woman. She is not a meek woman.
"She girds herself with strength & strengthens her arms." vs.17

We are called to have our own strength & not to rely on the man for all things that require a little muscle. Whenever I'm out kayaking, I can feel each and every muscle in my arms & shoulders & can feel better that I'm getting some strength in a place that is usually very flimsy & weak for myself. I may need this strength for something one day. For you, you may need it to lift a child, or perhaps you have a job that requires lifting or carrying, or one day your arms may be needed to lift the fallen or care for a husband that is sick. Yes, we women need strength in our arms

She has compassion for the needy
"She extends her hand to the poor, yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy." vs 20

I think this verse even goes beyond meaning that she donates to charities because it refers to her hands twice. I think a compassionate woman will not only have compassion for the less fortunate, but she'll be in there with them, comforting them or being of service.

There is more to say about this mighty woman of virtue so I encourage you to read on & discover her other attributes of virtue. Like I mentioned before I started, when reading Proverbs when I was younger, I always dreaded the 31st because it was a reminder of all the things I was striving to be (and yet not always succeeding) But I do not dread the chapter 31 anymore because I think she is a shining example of how all us women should strive to be. It should not be a reprimanding chapter, but more a reminder of which way we should be headed!

Blessings to all my women friends that we may strive to be this Virtuous Woman. Blessings to all my male friends that you may be blessed with some of these attributes in your mother, your sister, your spouse, your daughter or a friend!

Thanks so much friends for sticking with me for 31 Days of Proverbs. I have grown through it immensely!


  1. I must admit that when I opened your blog and saw that we women are 'crafty'....well lets just say, I had a good laugh. Especially because the post is about virtue!!! But right off, you have established, in one sentence, that we are 'crafty'!!! I love it. Cunning, sneaky, sly, shrewd, sneaky and devious....I could go on and on..but I shall resist...because - of course - this is not what you meant at all! I am just having fun!!!!!

  2. Oh Becks - for this 'ol stay-at-homer, you make me feel all warm and buttery and important inside! I love the way you interpret this scripture - and I 'blieve you're the big V in many, many ways. I look forward to gliding like waterbugs with you on our lake! *hugs* to you, my friend!

  3. Dear Becky,

    I can't believe your 31 days are up all ready! Time sure flies when you're having fun, and the Word of God is powerful, but fun too!

    I used to dread this chapter too, but more and more I'm seeing a different picture about this woman. All in all she was balanced - well rounded in abilities and had a love for her family and those around her. That's nothing to fear, as you so aptly put it, we should strive for it!

    Great posts on Proverbs - really good insights. And as always, keep those beautiful pictures coming!

    Take care and I hope you have a great weekend kayaking and relaxing with your hubby. Our local pool is open so Joel, my five-year-old, wants to go swimming. My hubby and older son are helping build a wheel-chair ramp at our church (a small 1800's building in Northeast Philadelphia - we live in the suburbs of Philly). I hope they can join us later for a refreshing dip.

    Haven't had a chance to put the kayaks in yet, but was walking next to the lake in a nearby park the other day with my five-year-old and our dog and the urge to get out there on the water was overwhelming! Soon... (smile)

  4. Regarding buying something above and beyond at the market. I don't really like root beer, but On a whim, I bought vanilla ice cream and root beer for root beer floats. My 16 year old was very excited about this! And my husband enjoyed it too.

    I know its small, but I forget the small things sometimes.

    Great job on the Proverbs posts and congratulations for finishing!